The Field Guide
An 8-Phase Process to Design & Devote to Your Untamed Life
For women done shrinking themselves to fit half-arsed, wish-I'd-done-it-differently kind of lives, and ready to live out loud and in full colour.
I'm Ready
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I mean…fuck. She asks a good question.
Because if you're reading this, no matter what your life looks like on the outside, I'm willing to bet it could feel even more YOU on the inside.
🪄Full of even more magic and awe. Ease and wonder.
⚡More alive.
💗More honest.
🍉More turned on.
😮💨More spacious.
A life even more full of whatever the fuck YOU want it full of. A life that floats your boat, lights you up, tickles your tits and turns you ON.
A life that FEELS like yours.
THAT is what I mean by a WILDlife.
You see, I don't think the problem is that you don't have a life. Or that your life is terrible…it probably looks quite good on the surface.
I think the problem is that you've outgrown the way you've been living it.
Stopped fully inhabiting it.
Not in dramatically obvious ways that anybody else might notice (🫠 which is half the fucking problem, right?)
But in tiny, subtle, socially acceptable ways.
✔️The way you’ve become sensible.
✔️Capable.
✔️Reliable.
✔️Good at carrying (all the) things.
✔️Good at understanding everyone else.
The way you keep editing yourself down to keep it all moving.
The way you abandon what YOU actually want and call it ‘being realistic’
The way you’ve built yourself around
- practicality
- performance
- productivity
And by the way, you haven't ended up here because you got it wrong.
You ended up here because you did everything right…by everyone else's standards. And somewhere in all that doing-it-right, you stopped asking what right even means to you.
So, I’m not saying you're lying face down in catastrophe.
You're not. You’re capable. Self-aware. Functioning.
You've probably already done the therapy, the coaching, the circles, journaling, the “work”.
And yet…
Somewhere underneath all of that wisdom and self-awareness is this relentless fucking niggle you can't really explain…especially without sounding embarrassingly ungrateful.
“My life technically works, why does it feel like I’m starving!?”
"Why does my life look so full and yet somehow not feel full of me?"
"How much of myself have I quietly learned to live without…and how much more of myself am I willing to lose!?”
"There has to be more to life than this!?"
Not more achievement. Not more productivity. Not another fucking five step strategy (ugh).
More truth. More desire. More beauty. More room to breathe inside your own life.
I’m here to tell you that you don't need a different life to have all of that.
You need to stop disappearing from the one you've got.
“I’ve had this idea of my dream life for an eternity but it never seemed to get any closer, it was always a ‘one day’ while life got in the way. Then enter Emma and WHOA. The Embodied Conscious Curation process is incredible & pure wizardry, and within a short period of time I had brought my hazy dream life into HD and actually started LIVING it now.”
Kate, home-ed, sourdough bread baking mother of 2
Just so we're clear, this isn’t a you problem.
The life you outgrew was built inside a very specific set of expectations about what a woman, a mother, a good person is supposed to want. You followed the map. It’s just that the map wasn't drawn for you
🗺️So we build a new map.
That's what WILDlife is for.
Through 8 phases of self enquiry, ritual, embodiment, and gritty, devotional action, you'll:
Excavate your buried truth and harvest the gold from where you already are
Unleash your inner bad girl and discover what you really, REALLY want (and what you really fucking don't)
Embody your most radiant, alive, turned-on self (not someday, but NOW)
Conjure the courage to claim your cravings, out loud and without apology
Devote yourself to a life of your own wild design, one ferocious, desire-driven choice at a time
Or in other words…
You'll admit your desire it.
Decide you deserve it.
Design it however the fuck YOU want it.
And then go do it.
And in case you were wondering...
This Isn't About Escaping Your Life
WILDlife is not about blowing your life to smithereens.
For some women, huge life shifts might just be the thing that lights them up.
But Wild doesn’t always look loud. It doesn’t mean crazy and reckless. It doesn’t mean bigger, shinier and more impressive to look at.
It's about becoming more YOU. On purpose.
And sometimes that looks like slowing the fuck down.
Choosing rest.
Honouring your nervous system.
Building something big without burning yourself out.
Or tending a tiny corner of your life like it’s totally fucking sacred (because it is)
Wild isn’t chaos.
It’s truth. It’s real.
It means I Will Intentionally Live Differently.
So you do not need to:
- Fuck off to Bali
- Blow up your marriage or your relationship
- become a completely different person
- perform your "best life" online
- optimise yourself into exhaustion
- heal yourself into perfection
- burn everything to the ground
Because this was never really about escape.
You don’t really actually want to run away, no matter how much you mutter FFS under your breath.
What you’re really craving is to feel more turned on by your own existence.
To feel alive again.
Alive in your body.
Alive at home.
Alive in your relationships.
Alive in your life on an ordinary bloody Tuesday morning.
WILDlife isn’t:
“I changed my life to feel alive”
It’s:
“I found aliveness without having to leave my life.”
That’s much more sustainable.
And much more true.
So maybe for you it’ll look like:
❤️🔥 finally wearing what you actually want to wear instead of what's acceptable/flattering/practical
❤️🔥 saying no without spiralling afterwards
❤️🔥 resting before you've "earned" it
❤️🔥 making art again
❤️🔥 laughing more
❤️🔥 stopping apologising for no apparent reason
❤️🔥 building your work around your nervous system instead of sacrificing yourself to it and contorting around it
❤️🔥 sitting in your own life and actually feeling THERE while it's happening
🪻 Maybe it's a flower bed instead of a complicated business funnel.
📖 A book club instead of another burnout cycle.
“Life has slowed down from the perpetual panic and constant demands. I find little spaces in my day that allow me to reset, to check my priorities and question my motivation.”
Karen, yoga teacher, mother of 2
🕯️ Candles lit before 5pm and bread that didn’t come from a packet.
🙏🏻 A nervous system that no longer feels permanently hunted.
Maybe it's finally admitting: "I don't actually want the life everyone keeps telling me I should want."
“I didn’t want my small life anymore. I didn’t want to feel small inside it. I’m now speaking on stages, I’m doing advocacy work. I’ve written a book! We’ve moved our whole family to live by the seaside and started home-edding - a dream I never thought was possible.”
Helen, ND advocate and ND mother of 2 ND children
So if you're ready to trade the tick-box, good-girl life for the fuck YES life, conformity for audacity, and everyone else's expectations for your own untamed truth…
Before you start telling yourself this only applies to women with loads of free time and nervous system capacity…
This work wasn’t built from a perfectly curated life with endless time, support and spaciousness.
It was built while navigating neurodivergent parenting and the associated school burnout & battles, mother-loss grief, peri-menopause fuckery, invisible labour, caregiving, systemic bullshit and the relentless cognitive load modern women are carrying every single day.
I know what it’s like to be trying to reconnect to yourself while simultaneously rewriting EHCP paperwork at midnight, advocating fiercely for your child, discovering your own neurodivergence, managing everyone else’s needs and wondering what fresh hormonal hell is happening this week.
Which means this work was never designed for women living in ideal conditions.
It was designed for real life. It was designed for you.
This is for you if you…
📍keep editing your desires into something more reasonable before they’ve even fully landed or anybody else can judge them
📍can physically feel the moment you abandon yourself in conversations…and still hear yourself agreeing anyway
📍secretly fantasise about checking into a hotel alone for two nights and immediately feel guilty for wanting that
📍keep trying to optimise a life your nervous system doesn't even enjoy being inside
📍want softness, beauty, pleasure and spaciousness…but part of you still thinks wanting those things makes you lazy and indulgent
📍feel quietly resentful of how much you carry, while also feeling ashamed for resenting it
📍know exactly what you'd tell a friend or client to do…while not fully doing it yourself
📍have become incredibly skilled at making your life look aligned while quietly starving inside it
📍feel jealous of women who seem freer, and convince yourself you couldn’t have that anyway
📍keep waiting for permission to live differently while simultaneously resenting everyone who already is
And now you’re DONE with it. With hustle. With hyper-productivity.
With the myth that “more” is the only measure of success
And you’re ready to stop betraying yourself so, so politely.
Women who've followed this process have:
✍🏻 Written books
👙 Overhauled their sad, grey, saggy underwear drawer
🍫 Savoured the expensive dark chocolate instead of snaffling the kids leftovers
🏡 Moved house
🍾 Stopped drinking
📊 Started businesses…ended businesses!
👏🏻 Left jobs and started jobs
😇 Softened their nervous systems
🫶🏻 Changed the way they parent
🛀🏼 Created more spacious lives
🎨 Started painting, singing, dancing, baking, foraging, planting and growing
🎻 Picked up their violin again
💅Stopped apologising for existing
🥰 Trusted themselves again
…and finally started living lives that actually feel like theirs
And now it’s your turn.
Inside WILDlife we don’t just pick a pretty goal and try our best to reach it.
We learn how to read your life and then we consciously curate around what we discover.
So we want to know:
❓What’s draining you.
❓What’s lighting you up.
❓What’s yours.
❓What was never yours.
❓What you secretly want.
❓What you keep tolerating.
❓What your body already knows.
❓What your fantasies, resentments, cravings & “bad girl” desires are actually trying to tell you.
Because all of it is data.
Then we take that data and ask: What’s the essence underneath?
So maybe you’ve caught yourself thinking:
“I want to move house.”
“I want a different business.”
“I want to run away.”
“I want a massive garden / book deal / treehouse / week alone in a hotel.”
But the most interesting, useful info is…underneath that, what feeling are you reaching for?
Freedom?
Beauty?
Ease?
Power?
Adventure?
Spaciousness?
Belonging?
Permission?
Peace?
That’s what this process unearths, and then we design for THAT.
Not someday.
Not when your life is calmer.
Not when you’ve fixed yourself enough to be worthy of it.
Now.
In your actual life.
Your home.
Your work.
Your relationships.
Your body.
Your rhythms.
Your normal, everyday mornings.
WILDlife takes you from sleepwalking through a watered-down version of someone else’s life…
to consciously designing and LIVING your own.
From:
- tolerating
- performing
- over-functioning
- self-editing
- waiting
- outsourcing your knowing
- calling self-abandonment “being realistic”
To:
- discerning what’s yours
- trusting what your body knows
- extracting the truth underneath your desires
- designing rhythms that support who you are becoming
- taking action from aliveness instead of duty
- choosing differently, again and again
- living in devotion to the life you’re curating
Not because you become somebody new.
Because you finally stop leaving yourself out of your own life.
So What Actually IS WILDlife?
WILDlife is an 8-phase embodied process for consciously curating a life that feels unmistakably yours.
Not from:
- conditioning
- performance
- survival
- productivity addiction
- self-improvement obsession
- other people's expectations
- trauma responses disguised as personality
But from: YOUR body. YOUR truth. YOUR desire. YOUR aliveness.
It will guide you through 8 phases:
HARVEST
Where are you right now? What patterns are running your life? What are you tolerating? What already feels alive?
DISCERN
What's yours and what isn't? What lights you up? What drains your life force? Where have you confused obligation for identity?
DREAM
Not performance. Not fantasy. Not "what sounds impressive." but what your future self genuinely longs for, even if everybody else is going to think it’s boring or batshit.
ANARCHY
Interrupt the autopilot. Question the rules. Burn the script you never consciously agreed to. This is where we explore the untamed parts of you that have been labelled too much, unrealistic, selfish, messy, inappropriate, impossible…not because we’re going to unleash them and wreak havoc everywhere, but because hidden inside those disowned parts are clues about what an alive life might actually taste like for you.
DESIRE
And when we’ve done all of that we’re going to draw it all together and distil it down into what you actually want AND what you don’t… before practicality edits it into something safer.
DECIDE
No more vague longing. No more "one day." This is where you choose: I Will Intentionally Live Differently. We decide now if we’re living from shoulds and constraints, or from aliveness.
DESIGN
How does this actually look in your REAL life? Your relationships. Your work. Your rhythms. Your home. Your body. Your days.
DO
Devotion. Embodiment. Action. Actually living the life you keep saying you want.
Not performatively. Not perfectly.
Truthfully.
Or in other words:
You'll mine your real life for data → extract the feeling/essence underneath what you want → design for that in real life → become the woman who lives from it → keep choosing it as devotion.
Why Nothing Else You’ve Tried Has Quite Worked…
…In the way you wanted it to AND lasted.
Because most change work starts from:
“I need to fix myself.”
More discipline.
More optimisation.
More self-monitoring.
More trying to force yourself into a life your nervous system doesn’t even enjoy inhabiting.
And more tips, tricks, hacks, formulas and potions to ‘cure’ it.
But you were never a problem to fix.
But you have become profoundly disconnected from your own fully-aliveness, instinct, juicy desire and honest truth thanks to years of conditioning, performance and adaptation...
And insight alone rarely changes that.
You can understand your patterns intellectually for years and still find yourself repeating them automatically in real life…
No matter how savvy, senior, switched on and sovereign you are, those patterns are still playing out.
Because the nervous system, the body, the identity and the psyche all have to come with you.
That’s why WILDlife isn’t just mindset work or journaling prompts or another course full of information you’ll intellectually agree with and then quietly fail to embody.
It’s a full embodied process of learning how to actually inhabit your life differently.
“I knew that within 10 days I would forget what I'd learnt and go back to being bored and lifeless. Which is why I joined. A whole year of support, encouragement and learning is exactly what I needed to help break unhelpful habits and form new ones.”
Gillian, mother of 2
This process is:
- body-led instead of performance-led
- desire-led instead of fear-led
- inward-outward instead of externally validated
- rooted in truth instead of optimisation
- done together instead of battled alone
We don't start with: "What should your life look like?"
We start with: "What makes you feel fucking alive?"
Because literally what is the point of being alive if you’re not even feeling alive while you’re doing it?
Why This DOES Work:
Because WILDlife isn’t just one thing.
It’s mindset work.
It’s somatics.
It’s shadow work.
It’s work
It’s journaling.
It’s life design.
It’s not just “set a goal and go do it.”
It’s the place where all of those things meet.
It’s deep work.
But it's also desire work, pleasure work, JOY work. And FUN work.
And it’s practical.
Because there is very little point having profound insight in a journal if your actual lived experience still feels constrained, performative and chronically disconnected from yourself.
And I want women to SEE and FEEL the shift in their real lives.
In their homes. Relationships. Bodies. Rhythms. Choices. Desires. Boundaries. Pleasure. Presence. And in their capacity for joy.
This process weaves together:
- somatic work because we’ve done enough thinking and sometimes the head is a right dick and the body knows WAY better
- parts work because living with different parts fighting each other internally is fucking exhausting and we could do with having them all the same page working together to get you what you actually want
- shadow work because prodding around in the murky bits is where aaaaalll the really juicy stuff lives and that’s WAY more fun than dragging it around full of shame hoping nobody will notice
- positive psychology because building a life from aliveness, joy, meaning and possibility is a fuckton more sustainable than all the criticism, judgement, pressure and fixing we’ve been subjected to so far
- nervous-system awareness because you can’t bully yourself into a life your body doesn’t feel safe enough to inhabit
- behavioural change because insight means fuck all if nothing shifts in your actual choices
- ritual and embodiment because some things need to be felt, moved, released and marked, not just understood
- conscious life design because once you know what’s true, you need to build rhythms, structures and choices that can actually hold it
“Emma showed me that the change in identity needs to come before action AND showed me how.”
Kate, mother to 2 ND children
This is why WILDlife doesn’t just ask: “What do you want?”
It asks:
❓Which part of you wants it?
❓Which part of you is terrified of it?
❓What does your body say?
❓What conditioning is speaking?
❓What are you secretly getting from staying where you are?
❓What would aliveness look like in your actual Tuesday morning, not just in a fantasy version of your life?
Because you don’t change your life by thinking harder about it.
And you don’t create a life that feels like yours by slapping a vision board over the top of a nervous system, identity and belief system still organised around self-abandonment.
I don’t just want to help you name the life you want.
I want to watch you become the woman who can actually live it.
“I’ve stopped drinking. I’ve set boundaries at work, created better balance at home, and started writing my book.”
Sadie, mother of 2
But don't just take my word for it...
“I’ve had this idea of my dream life for an eternity but it never seemed to get any closer, it was always a ‘one day’ while life got in the way.
Then enter Emma and WHOA.
The Embodied Conscious Curation process is incredible & pure wizardry, and within a short period of time I had brought my hazy dream life into HD and actually started LIVING it now.
The change has been profound, long lasting and really easily accessible.
Emma showed me that the change in identity needs to come before action AND showed me how.
My mindset has completely shifted, my day to day life feels aligned and Emma’s coaching and the community has kept me going and celebrated me every step of the way.”
Kate, home-edder, kitchen goddess and mother of 2
“I didn’t want my small life anymore.
I didn’t want to shrink.
And I wouldn’t have had the courage to step up without Emma’s hands at my back and this community holding me.
Now I’m standing up as a speaker, as an advocate, as a voice for those who don’t have one.
I’ve written a book.
We’ve moved our family to the seaside - a dream I never thought was possible.
But it was.
And I can’t imagine where I’d be if I hadn’t chosen this space.”
Helen, ND advocate, speaker, author and ND mother
“Life has slowed down from the perpetual panic and constant demands.
I find little spaces in my day that allow me to reset, to check my priorities and question my motivation.
I am finding myself better able to climb out of the river and sit on the bank.
I am easier on myself and the people around me.”
Karen, yoga teacher and mother of 2
“I’m not angry anymore.
I’ve stopped drinking.
I’ve found exercise I actually enjoy doing.
I’ve set boundaries at work, created better balance at home, and started writing my book, something I’ve always wanted to do.
I’m so pleased with how I’m showing up with the kids now too… trusting and listening to myself rather than trying to read advice everywhere else.
I believe now that my dreams can become reality, and I’m making steps toward them.
I couldn’t live like I was before, but I can definitely live like this.”
Sadie, mother of 2
“I used to be very ‘all or nothing’.
I would decide on a big step to take, force myself to do it every 'x' days, miss a day so "fail" and give up!
With Emma's guidance, I realised I could start small with achievable, bite-sized steps that didn't feel daunting or difficult.
Emma also helped me to keep my bigger vision in mind, and to feel in my body whether the baby steps I was taking were in alignment with where I wanted to be.
Having a place to course correct & celebrate my mini-wins along the way was so valuable to help me see progress, which really helps keep the momentum going.
I’ve now finished a massive house project we’d been putting off for ages and have found the confidence to leap into my new business venture I’d been hiding from before.”
Trudy, entrepreneur and mother
What does WILDlife actually look like in practice?
WILDlife takes you through the complete arc of my deliberately designed, signature Embodied Conscious Curation Process across 8 distinct phases
Each phase builds on the last, taking you from quietly tolerating a life that technically works...
...to consciously curating one that feels unmistakably yours.
Along the way you'll:
✨ uncover the patterns running your life
✨ reconnect to desire before practicality edits it into something smaller
✨ question inherited scripts and "shoulds"
✨ extract the truth underneath what you think you want
✨ make conscious, embodied choices instead of automatic ones
✨ redesign your rhythms around aliveness rather than obligation
✨ build a life that feels alive from the inside out
This isn't about collecting another set of insights and quietly agreeing with them
It's about becoming the woman who actually lives what she already knows.
For every phase you'll receive:
✨ A beautifully designed guide
✨ Teachings
✨ Reflections, rituals, prompts and practices
✨ Embodiment invitations
✨ Real-life experiments to help you move from insight into action
Together they give you:
the what
the why
the concepts
the tools
the practices
Return to it whenever you need.
Revisit it as often as you like.
Because consciously curating your life isn't a project you complete once.
It's a practice you return to.
What's included:
Inside WILDlife: The Field Guide you'll receive:
✨ The complete Embodied Conscious Curation process
✨ All 8 phases in one beautifully designed Field Guide
✨ Teachings, reflections, rituals, prompts and practices
✨ Embodiment invitations and real-life experiments
✨ Lifetime access
As soon as you join, you'll receive the complete Field Guide and can begin your journey immediately.
☀️ Summer Solstice Special
For the Summer Solstice I'm making WILDlife: The Field Guide available for £99.
Normally £197.
Because the Solstice is a threshold.
A turning point.
A moment to stop sleepwalking through the life you've inherited and consciously choose the one you're here to live.
☀️ Summer Solstice Special: £99
From tomorrow: £197
👋🏻Hey, I'm Emma.
Recovering people pleasing good-girl, previously closet, now out and out rebel WITH a cause.
I got the grades, went to Cambridge, climbed to director level at a London media agency, and spent most of that time quietly seething while doing everything right. I retrained as a teacher because everyone always said I should. They weren't wrong, I loved it. But not the system.
Then I had my son, and he hadn't read any of the plans. Any of them.
In the chaos of early motherhood I fell completely out of the picture. Not like, dramatically, or in ways anyone else would necessarily notice, but in the quiet, accumulated way that capable women do.
Bit by bit, the life I was living stopped feeling like mine. And the process of finding my way back is what this, and all my work, is built on.
I'm the founder of the ReWilding Motherhood® Method and I help midlife women see clearly - not feel better about the story they're telling, but actually see through it.
Because most of the women I work with aren't broken or lost. They're just overdue a mirror that doesn't lie. They're living inside a version of themselves built for someone else's comfort, inside a system with very specific (and shit) ideas about who they're allowed to be.
They're functioning brilliantly. They're just functioning at the wrong bloody frequency!
The women who find me are usually more exhausted by their own story than attached to it. They don't want yet another someone to be careful with them. They want the truth. And THAT I can do.
So I WILL say the thing nobody else has been willing to say and ask the questions that unlock everything else.
Women tell me I'm one of the safest people they've ever talked to...and then they say things they've never said out loud before. I consider that a responsibility, not a resting place.
My work operates on three levels at once:
What's happening in your body (because that's where the real information lives);
What's happening in your relationships (including your relationship to yourself);
and what's happening in the system you've been swimming in.
I will always work on the presumption that you are definitely NOT the problem. But you are the solution, and that's what we're here to find out.
I live near the Thames with my husband and son, I swear prolifically, I'm obsessed with squirrels, I leap into cold rivers when the opportunity presents, and I think women telling the fucking truth out loud until it's contagious is the thing that's going to change the fucking world.
Oh, I’m also ADHD, probably AudDHD, and last month I swapped 49 years of body shame for taking a beginners burlesque class and performing practically naked in my first show...so, you know, I walk (strut) my talk.
So, if you're ready to stop disappearing from your own life, you're in the right place.
Fair warning : This process will change your life!
And two things can be true at once:
You can love your life…and still know it's not fully true yet.
You can be grateful…and still ache for more aliveness.
You can be deeply self-aware…and still notice the places you betray yourself daily.
You can have built a beautiful life…and still realise parts of it were built from conditioning instead of truth.
That doesn't make you selfish. Ungrateful. Broken. Too much.
It makes you awake.
And once you see it?
You can't really unsee it.
So the question becomes:
What would happen if you stopped shrinking yourself to fit the life… …and started curating the life around the truth of who you actually are?
Because your one wild and precious life?
It's already happening.
The only question is whether you're willing to consciously live it.
So, go on, tell me, what IS it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
I can’t wait to help you live your answer.
"The number one regret of the dying is: I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to me and not the one everyone else expected."
Bronnie Ware, palliative nurse
Most people die having never actually lived THEIR life, their way.
But you are not most people.
FAQ:
What if my life is too chaotic right now?
Is this just for mothers?
What if I don't know what I want yet?
Can I work with you 1:1?
Do I need to have done other work first?